Childfree mumsnet To the above posters point I don’t think all childfree Another memorable one was the poster who said she was only on Mumsnet because she wanted to see parents struggling to reinforce her choice to be childfree 🙄😂. House tidied, bath, PJs on, To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet The freedom & independence of being childfree are incredibly precious to me, and was an important factor in my decision not to have children. IMO the potential for upset is massive whatever the board (have a I wanted to weigh in here on grandparental attitudes, despite having had a late child after I’d planned to be childfree, but having five siblings who are childfree by choice — Can I ask, are you in your 30s? That was peak everyone's-having-babies time for me. I know it sounds odd but there are some people who just don’t want to. It was child free due to costs (in her I've lived alone in a rented flat for almost 3 years and I've loved every minute of it. Yay! I'm just trying to work out how the logistics will work for our guests. What would you do if you had a child-free couple of days with your partner? Unhindered by kids we don't mind @GrumpyPanda it feels like it at work. I'm very grumpy today due to sleep deprivation. I suspect that this often happens in my professional environment because I'm about a decade 'behind' in I feel like if I post on other Mumsnet forums, people will remind me of my biological clock and that I need to decide fast because my fertility will plummet. We can't have children and it was still incredibly raw for us I wish they'd realise that most people with children simply don't care if others choose to have children or not. My friends all starting getting Saying that there are good reasons single childfree people might not be rolling in it doesn’t mean I’ve overlooked that there are single parents too. Childfree Book Childfree, single and slave to a fat ginger boy with ridiculous separation anxiety. I would occasionally babysit if needed, but there was no specific expectation because I was childfree. I decided after a lot of IVF and a strained relationship with my DP that in my The only difference is whilst I considered myself to be childfree, my lifestyle wasn't really childfree as I couldn't do the things other childfree people could, Mumsnet Premium. I see the advantages of both For mumsnetters who are childfree due to infertility, is this part of the journey to being childfree Mumsnet carries some affiliate marketing links, so if you buy something Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. Same with some cooking classes and volunteering, I My advice would be to look out for other women who are childfree, whether that's famous women / public figures or women in your own life. My feelings seem quite complicated. It’s very American so I don’t contribute a lot but it’s can be quite light. I am maternal but that This is a weird one. Personally (knowing, I freely admit, fuck all) I doubt she would be worrying about it, if it was just the odd childfree short holiday. I am 63, childfree by choice and have never felt any pressure from society, my family, my friends, fleeting social encounters, my work, And yet, I feel many view us women without children as married to our career, and that's the reason for our childfree status. If your friend is a good friend she understand. If you need help urgently or expert advice, How did your family react when you told them you wanted to you are all right. Out of my social group of close friends I’m the only one that is childfree/single, by choice. I'm childfree, but do work full time, and also help care for 2 sets of parents. If it came down to it, now that I am 60, I would Please note this is the childfree forum and I am seeking opinions from childfree / childless people. Nip it in the bud now, your brother may sulk for a while but he'll Your nephew is being ridiculous. In an ideal world no woman would have a child she didn’t want, go without Elon Musk hits out at viral videos of DINK couples, saying there's an 'awful morality' to those who choose not to have children. I've never wanted kids, ever since I was a child myself. Our son is very young now (8 months) however my partner and I both do think ahead and honestly I was just curious to see whether I chose not to have them because I wanted a childfree life but having lived it, I would have chosen to have kids because it wasn't all it was cracked up to be. * Whether it exists or not, what do you / would you pay more for? DH and I always pay through the nose to stay in The two can overlap (I’m both, and far from alone), but the term “childfree” is necessary to denote that not having kids can be a positive (note: not superior, just not I read this and thought oh do grow up. Childfree = much more Women without children were slammed for being 'over sensitive' after they took issue with the terms 'childless' and 'childfree' in a heated online debate. Apart from the colleague above I've been spared the worst excesses *Note: this is posted on the Childfree board and I’m mainly interested in the views of posters who don’t have children* I was reading this article in Skip to main content Skip to I do try to give the kids a nice Christmas, and yes, if they are happy then that will make me smile. I think it was felt that the existing infertility boards were a good space for people who are childless to be supported specifically around being Flower girls at childfree weddings are typically there as props. I only get help with 3 hours on the weekend from DH which I currently dedicate for personal things. Spanish Steps, Trevi Fountain, Parthenon all within easy walking distance. DH (41) and I (39) have been together 20 years Watching with interest. The childfree couple are feeling left out as for a few years, their YABU -I was invited to one last year - a dear friend and I was so chuffed for her but it was child free and along way away so we coudn't go. If you need help urgently or expert advice, In a childfree relationship partners are completely focussed Wanted a childfree wedding, but knew it would make it impossible for various siblings to attend so didn't bother. Before she died I only saw her about once a year for 20 years. I I'm sure childfree people can and do appreciate their lives! However, based my experience, that of some friends, and some of the mumsnet threads I've read, having your first I never wanted children of my own. I think threads are being started by posters who’d prefer the board removed and want to demonstrate Hi All, New to this side of mumsnet and NC’d for the move. My best friend and I are both 38. She'll be shunted out of sight once she's done her duty at the ceremony and it won't be much of a day for her. The Mumsnet thread was kickstarted ["Childfree" refers to those who do not have and do not ever want children (whether biological, adopted, or otherwise). I had a child free wedding myself (before having children) but it was a 1 day thing His best friend, also 75, is single & childfree & over the years has got very involved in his local community, volunteering, joining local groups etc. For author poorna bell, the decision not to have children has not always been linear. Most of us live ordinary lives, with or without children and if you were Honestly, it's much better to prepare for an old age alone than expect that you won't be because you have children. I'm inclined to say that at work it's the opposite. Maybe her parents I came across a tweet by a child-free friend yesterday in which she referred to people who have children as "breeders," and to be honest it's left a n Work is my childfree time but your way sounds better! We'd probably do similar to you. Mainly because I plan to "spend it Hi all, I'm getting married this year. Cooking something nice in the Childcare might be a good way to catch up. ](http://bit. I know my parents expect me to leave all of my money Why aren't I feeling excited at being childfree when I've never wanted children? 139 replies indecisionruiningmylife Mumsnet carries some affiliate marketing links, so if you buy I'm childfree, 40, and I've spent all my Christmases with my partner since 2006. If you're childless people feel My mother, thankfully, is dead. Both are tall, attractive and high earners. Join our forum for Mumsnetters embracing the childfree life. He wanted kids and I was very much on the fence. Of course some of those that are childfree would love children (my son was long awaited). In this day and age it's socially acceptable to be honest about this. everything you say is monitored. Society in general has this idea that if you aren't a To me, being 'childfree' means that you don't have children, won't ever be having children, and (on balance) you are happy about that. Well most of us go out more I'm childfree and I confess that sometimes it does scare me a bit that either myself or my DH will be alone in our old age - depending on who dies first. If you have a childfree wedding, much the same as a wedding abroad or a whole weekend wedding, then you need to accept some people My best friend is coming to stay from the other end of the country in a few weeks. I’m 52, and while I chose to have a child at 40, after planning to remain childfree, it was a genuine choice. I have asked (repeatedly) that those weekends be uninterrupted. Obviously if you don't invite peoples children, you have to be prepared for some not to attend due to childcare I suppose women can have a baby without keeping the man around, but for men every woman who wants to stay childfree lessens their chances. My partner is generally quite hostile/resented towards me having a free time after he is home from The bride and groom are to be honest. It's SO important to find a 'tribe' of And living lives that are visibly fulfilling. The -free seems to imply liberation from the idea of children, as if that's some obligation or burden, or as if they're I have been single for 6 years, I’m not ruling out a relationship completely but i am not that bothered if it doesn’t happen. We both initially went to 4 days a week around age 40. And while my counter point below may still feel hurtful, please know I am trying for it not to. Sounds Im in my mid 30s as are most of my close friends. By undermining and not respecting their adult I thought I had gravitated towards people who plan to be childfree, but one after another they're falling pregnant. It's the people with children who are the most I’m estranged from my parents so my siblings will get a bigger share of any inheritance (parents are very wealthy). We childfree women are very aware of that possibility. More than half of the adults were parents (54 percent). Quote React Add post Share To comment on this thread you need to create a You know those horrific news stories of a woman taking her own life along with her child/children? That would be me. It always ended in her making jibes about me not having children and how my If you are feeling it here you need to remember this is Mumsnet. Don't kick up a fuss if people RSVP no because they don't want However, apparently the idea of having a 'Childfree' board was 'insensitive' according to some posters. Now I'm in my fifties, I don't really notice it, it's just younger colleagues at work, not people Feminist and women’s rights groups tend to have higher proportions of single and childfree women (not by coincidence, of course) and therefore often lots of women up for A group I am in which is mainly childfree women were discussing relationships and the single childfree women said they prefer to date childfree men who have had a vasectomy What tipped the scales for you into deciding to have DC, or deciding to remain childfree? One last bit of info that's quite important; I know I do qualify/would need IVF due to a We live in London (suburbs) so have done all the obvious things. To comment on this thread you need to create a It's not childfree women who don't accept people change their minds. But I’d really appreciate some advice/perspective from parents. The perception of childfree people having these crazy social lives seems to come from parents who went out a lot in their 20's before they had kids. I did go on to have a child at 40, and it has never occurred to me to I heard about this today, and I'm keen to know what non-married childfree people think of it? Especially how it applies to childfree people. She may well get past this phase in a It's just a fairly simple hypothetical question, but: If you are childfree by choice, and discovered to your shock that you were pregnant and that it I think it’s something you need to keep thinking about then as you don’t seem sure you’re childfree. Sounds sad but This. I get the title comment ALL the time from other women (and One of the arguments against being childfree is that you'll be lonely and there will be no-one to look out for you. This was extensively debated. I enquired with a charity a few years ago. It's very hard. Another 12 percent planned to have biological or adopted I'm a new mum and I already regret having a baby - I miss being able to watch Netflix and spending time alone. I have had to make the decision to stop fertility treatment for the sake of my sanity but I am struggling to shift my focus Hi all - I’m childfree, so I hope it’s ok for me to post here. I've always been very vehement about it, I can only think of negatives about parenting at any It’s this kind of thing I always think about when there’s threads on here about women who are losing their friends who have just become parents/women who have just had I’m childfree, so I have no personal experience of this but I do have a couple of friends who are childless by circumstance and I do have an aunt who wanted to have children "But something about 'childfree' really grates with me. My 3 DSDs live with us full time and spend EOWE at their mum's. Your situation is different than mine but Of course it's OK for you to comment :0) I went on a few meet up walking groups and they were all much much younger. here, she Mum will soon have to baby proof so swapping things around a bit on shelves and getting cupboard locks, and pointed out that my home must be a nightmare for parents with Thank you, this is definitely helpful insight. I’ve found some groups very OTT and weird. See the free stuff. I also desperately wanted children, but actually pragmatic non-smug posts like that were very helpful in my coming to come to terms with being childless, then It’s just what happens if you have a childfree wedding that people need to travel to attend. I have 2 SC (now 14 & 17). Quote Childfree by choice What it means to be child-free - 27 Jun 2024 - Red - UK Magazine - Readly. My current SO of several years also is, thankfully, childfree. PIL did the same to us before we had children - two years running! They had accepted our invitation to join us for Christmas, and then decided to What are all the childfree up to this weekend? Tomorrow I'm going to a antique market with my sister and SIL to hopefully find a few treasures. I have known them for 9 years. I’ve been called selfish, a weirdo, crazy cat lady, will never know what real love is and my favourite 32, childfree and hope to remain so for rest of life! I genuinely do not envy the lives of my friends with children, in fact most of the time I think ‘you poor bastards’, even when I know that childfree people care about children just as much as parents. But so many people I know are so unhappy in their families. Occasionally we've had the in-laws when they've been at a I'm sorry to hear this OP. So you do what's right for you and don't worry about opinions,it's your life after all. It's the only time I get to relax, say what I Asking because some childfree people I know have expressed a link between not having children and not wanting pets, and I'm interested in that idea because it isn't one I Which means I will have my regular childfree for the first time in five years. I Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. It's I'm childfree by choice, but I feel immense sadness at the thought of not having a family when I'm older, and wondered if anyone can relate/reassure? I'm absolutely not suited He thinks we should be childfree. Being childfree has many benefits for me eg space, time, Me and my best friend are both single and childfree. Quote To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account. One man had a late work colleague's dd who was like his own Tedious isn’t it. I then went freelance and never do more than 4 days, more like 3 European Hotel for childfree holiday! 3 replies LincolnIsle · 30/12/2023 10:39 Hi All long time lurker Mumsnet carries some affiliate marketing links, so if you buy something Both my current partner and my former partner are childfree. We decided to stop trying 2 months ago. This friend wants to meet i’m in my 40s, single and childfree, and I’ve had a sibling make noises about me starting to give their young adult children some of my money now ‘when they’re starting out’. I don’t feel like a weirdo, I have lots of single friends who Not at all. It’s not that I particularly want them, but it is a part of So I don't feel I am childless not by choice, but now at this point I am childfree partly by choice. Mumsnet carries some affiliate I think you have to be honest and say you’ll really struggle with this especially as it’s over 2 days. My level of indecision was too much and was making me ill. . The one thing I would say is that part of having a childfree wedding is accepting that some guests won't come. Having been in their lives for 9 years and seeing what a thankless task having First couple of nights without my beautiful spirited DD, what do you all do when you have child free time? Before and during Covid. Or I love my kids 100% Thanks for starting this thread - I was thinking of starting one recently too. Go to the Victor Emmanuel Naomi Campbell had 2 kids after 50 and has a message for young women who don't want to be moms: 'You will change your mind' In 2021, the supermodel revealed that she I don't have children and I'm in my early 40s. We also are very aware that it is far, far worse to Maybe she doesn’t want to do anything childfree at the moment. If you're really concerned they will do this you'll have to I follow Childfree Chicks Confidential on FB. Childless = can have a tinge of sadness, the person may be childless not by choice. And of course most childfree still have many of the same burdens on I am childfree by choice, I could have biological children, step children, surrogate children, foster or adopt children but I choose not to. A video of a childless couple describing their carefree lifestyle went viral, but Elon Musk was one of Something wasn't right there. Is it mumsnet stools trying to drive up engagement because the forum’s gone slow and the paymasters have noticed? Is it a deal to train AI? Is it to drum up The best thing about being childfree is not having children, because I don’t want children. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships As this board became more well known, I assumed this would happen. Either they have a child free wedding and accept that the cousin and his wife won't be there, or they make an exception for such a young I disagree. Can anyone else relate? There's something so gorgeous about peace, quiet, doing everything I am childfree, so I’m not in a position to advise OP, but as a childfree women I have a lot of childless friends who have said they made an effort to fill their life with childfree and We get to escape for our 5th anniversary and have chosen Harrogate - any accommadation ideas? Many thanks If your regret/upset etc is ‘unpopular’ with anyone, then they’re an arsehole, you’re not childfree in the true meaning of the word, you’re childless by circumstance and it’s no 2 days. If my main consideration I don't think many people would ignore a no-child stipulation, however many hissy strops they have about the concept. It's my age, I'm 33. We are having a 'semi' child free wedding, in that we're hiring in a As a childfree by choice person myself i appreciate how hard it is for working parents especially when a child is ill. Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. I am definitely childfree by choice for now, Well if you're planning to have a baby in 2-3 years, stick around and be a supportive lovely friend when their babies arrive and then you'll maintain your friendship and I’m childfree by choice so I don’t get melancholy around Christmas but I really do have a lot of sympathy for you for that and I can imagine it’s a very difficult time of year so I’m I met my now husband nearly 20 years ago. The retirement thread just got me thinking - are any of your siblings also * If in active, please note this is posted in the childfree section. Quote To comment on For some obscure reason they seem to see it as a slur on masculinity - esp if you're childfree and married. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships The decision to be childfree is complex, and the mother won’t bring anything new to the table that the adult child hasn’t considered. The woman explained that she is booking her wedding with her partner, and they I think some childless people describe themselves as childfree but I also think many people are genuinely childfree. (i dont Mumsnet carries some affiliate marketing links, Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. I see parents on here saying things like 'i One childfree client had her late DH's niece who she got on with very well with and helped her out weekly. My friends all starting getting married and having children within the last 5 years, apart I don't believe childless and childfree are used interchangeably. We've had years of difficultly TTC eventually getting pregnant, planning nurseries, choosing May not be the right place to post but didn't know where else to post Do you ever come to terms with not having children if you want them? I'm almost 40. I'm in my 30s and leaning towards staying childfree too, but it's always the fear of being older and lonely Also little comments in the retirement thread like "this isn't a childfree/parent issue" It seems to have eluded that poster that CF people retire and don't have children to think/worry “Let’s only buy for the children” Yet DH & I are the only ones childfree! 451 replies PinkJeggings · 13/12/2017 14:56 To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet I'm childfree by choice and would never date anyone with children. Join Mumsnet . Nobody depends on me, To Childfree couple, late 50's, one of them has two younger siblings (late 40's) who've chosen to have children. And what I said wasn’t low at Childfree through choice myself, and I've had umpteen women down the years remark that they envy the lifestyle that comes with that, but most add the caveat that they My friends are a mixture of mums and childfree women (and some men) and I make sure I try to spend time with their children, but they also value spending time with me Child-free does seem pretty normal now but I've just been invited to a wedding where even babes-in-arms are excluded (and as a consequence, I can't go - my baby will only Far too often society shuns women for choosing not to have children. It's essentially a pledge from Labour to Spoke with friend about retirement, both mid 30s, and our ideas fundamentally differ for various reasons including DH and I being childfree. A new mum-of-one took to UK forum Mumsnet to say she regrets I'm almost 40 and child free, as are over half of the friends I know from college and university. ly/2HkFmcL)** Members Online Toddler ran up and grabbed While we acknowledge that Mumsnet was initially targeted at mothers, it has broadened out to a general discussion forum with a diverse range of users and the posts we analysed included those who did not have children More than one-quarter of the adults (27 percent) were childfree. I'm FT and have maximum flexibility of my schedule so I'm taken more seriously than Any older childfree/childless posters experiencing this? Starting to happen to me now. Along with Piazza Navona / Fiori. It’s as simple as that. So you both wrong and possibly horrible. Chat with likeminded posters about absolutely anything - from your next holiday to what's for dinner. It doesn’t matter if someone over hears a snippet of conversation and takes it out of context eg hearing God yes! My (childfree) neighbours invited me to a BBQ on Sun and I had every intention of going until I saw out of my window that a couple had turned up with a toddler (and Childfree is childfree. I don't worry about dying I know money doesn't motivate a lot of people but as a young, childfree person, I would have never thought to apply for a part time job, unless I could be assured there was If you don't actually want to have children then just be honest. I'd never thought about kids until I met him and I'll admit I did get extremely I find, as a 38-year-old woman, that I'm asked quite a bit if I have children. It's delightful, just us and the pets. He’s busy & has a full social life. I don't pity them, or envy them, or hate them, I just don't care. We'll have a bit of adult time when my DH has my toddler, but any i I wouldn't tell a childfree woman she's missing out just like I'd think it's not her place to tell me I'm missing out. We have childfree siblings and have never expected this type of involvement, I don't know anyone who does. It's your wedding at the end of the day, not hers. Op agree with others its too far away to commit at the moment. This without doubt has been the hardest debate I’ve had. I think it's a pretty common life choice now and I can't say I recall anyone asking Taking to popular forum Mumsnet, the woman, posting as Flamingomonkey, asked for advice.
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